Two easy shortcuts to knowing a potential partner
Just think of the reputable talk shows and stories of when family members are shocked another family member has a secret and they can't believe it is true; or couldn't believe the lie they've kept up for so long. If people that have known someone much longer than most other people on earth and were still deceived by who the person really was, it is much more difficult for an outsider who has only known the person for only a few days or months to know them. Luckily, this article will give you some advice on some "tricks" you can use to knowing someone much better in a short time span.
A good first step would be to spend time with the person's friends. If you do nothing else, but this, this will give you an excellent indicator of what she or he is like. People attract people similar to them. Also, people like to be around people they want to be like. So, if your girlfriend or boyfriend's friends all do drugs and heavy alcohol, you may want to be cautious. If you find out that his or her friends are very nice, discipline, and posses other positive traits, then you have a good idea of what your partner is like. This is not to say to look for perfection, because it doesn't exist. The point is to look at the big picture. So, if your girlfriend or boyfriend asks you to come with him or her to hang out with their friends, don't shy away. Remain very quiet and observe the big picture.
A good second step is to take your boyfriend or girlfriend to a few different restaurants. Act as if you're not noticing, but keep your eye on how he/she treats the service industry folk. If she/he is unnecessarily rude and nasty to them, how do you think he/she will treat you over time? Be on guard for people who complain a lot in restaurants as well. Obviously if there is a fly in your salad, you should alert the waiter. But, if the waiter is very busy with loads of other tables and your date is being rude and requesting they oblige to their every demand in a super fast time period that will reflect how he/she will act in your relationship at some point.